MOTHERHOOD IS NOT FOR THE FAINT OF HEART.MANY TEARS FALL OVER THE YEARS,I HAVE 6 SO I’M SWIMMING IN YRS OF THE CRYING RIVER.YOU CRY WHEN YOU HAVE THEM,WHEN U GIVE THEM AWAY EITHER TO COLLEGE,MARRIAGE OR TO THE WORLD ITSELF.FUNNY HOW WE THE PARENTS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE OUTCOME OF OUR YEARS OF PARENTING.WE DO OUR BEST,PROMOTING HEALTHY CHOICES,FREEDOM BUT WITH COMPROMISES AND WE TEACH THEM FROM RIGHT AND WRONG,HOWEVER SOMETIMES EVEN OUR BEST ATTEMPTS AT IT,WE SOMETIMES HAVE TO ADMIT DEFEAT THAT OUR BEST WASN’T GOOD ENOUGH.AND SOMEHOW ,WELL MAYBE IN SOME CASES IT IS THE PARENTS ,BUT IN MOST IT’S WHAT I BELIEVE SOCIETY’S FAULT THAT TURNS THE MOST LOVING,KIND CHILD INTO A MONSTER THAT IS HATED BY WHAT CREATED IT.THINK ABOUT IT,THE KID WHO WANTS TO LEARN IN SCHOOL BUT IS BULLIED EVERYDAY AND THE SCHOOL HAS A LAX ATTITUDE ABOUT IT? OR THE ONE WHO WORKS SO HARD AND SACRIFICES HIS NEEDS AND THOSE OF HIS FAMILIES TO PROVE HIS WORTH AND WORKS HARDER AND LONGER THAN THE OTHER EMPLOYEES BUT GETS LOOKED OVER TIME AND AGAIN FOR A RAISE AND THE PROMOTION THAT WOULD ALLOW HIM TO AFFORD HEALTH INS AND MAYBE SOME XTRA FOOD ON THE TABLE.OR THE KID THAT THE PARENTS SEE AS A TROUBLED CHILD SO THEY SEND HIM TO A PLACE THAT’S SUPPOSE TO HELP BUT MAKES THEM MORE ANGRY AND RESENTFUL ,WHERE DO WE DRAW THE LINE AT TOUGH LOVE?I BELIEVE WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR OWN ACTIONS BUT SHOULD’NT WE EXPECT MANKIND TO BR RESPECTFUL AND HELPFUL TO EACHOTHER?THINK ABOUT THIS,ONE PERSON’S ACTIONS OR NONACTIONS OR WORDS CAN AFFECT A PERSONS FUTURE IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER.DO YOU HOLD “BAGGAGE” FROM YOUR CHILDHOOD? ARE YOU A FAILURE OR A SUCCESS BECAUSE OF HOW YOU WERE RAISED?DID YOU HAVE A POSITIVE ENVIRONMENT OR WERE YOU SURROUNDED BY PEOPLE WHO CONSTANTLY PUT DOWN EVERYTHING YOU EVER DID OR SAID?SOME ARE NOT ONLY A PRODUCT OF THEIR ENVIRONMENT BUT ALSO SOCIETY.HOW DO JUSTIFY PLACING A CHILD IN HANDCUFFS FOR RIDING AN ILLEGAL BIKE AND EXPECT HIM TO RESPECT THE POLICE AS HE GETS OLDER? BUT THEN AGAIN HE HAS PARENTS WHO BROKE A LAW AND DISRESPECT THE LAW.HOW ABOUT THE STUDENT WHO TAKES A PLASTIC KNIFE TO SCHOOL TO CUT HIS COOKIE TO GET EXPELLED BECAUSE OF THE ZERO TOLERENCE IN SCHOOL SYSTEMS.HOW DOES THIS AFFECT HIM AS HE GETS OLDER? WHAT LESSON WILL A 5 YO LEARN BY HAVING THE WORLD’S ATTENTION ON HIM? I AGREE THERE NEEDS TO BE LAWS IN AND OUT OF SCHOOL BUT I ALSO BELIEVE THE AGE,NATURE OF THE CRIME AND HISTORY OF THE CHILD BE CONSIDERED.YOU CANNOT HONESTLY SAY THAT 2 KIDS WHO AND YES IT IS AGAINST THE LAW TO WALK AWAY WITH ANOTHER CHILDS PROPERTY BUT TO CALL THE POLICE,HANDCUFF THEM IS RIGHT,NO AND SHAME ON THE 1 WHO CALLED THE POLICE.THESE WERE’NT KIDS WHO ARE THIEVES BY TRADE,NO TROUBLE AT ALL.THE PUNISHMENT SHOULD’NT ALWAYS FIT THE CRIME IN SOME SCENARIOS.I MEAN MY SON GIVES ME A HARD TIME AND YES I HAVE TO CALL THE POLICE ,TO PROTECT MY SON FROM HIMSELF AND 5 COPS COME READY TO TAKE HIM DOWN BUT 15 HOODLUMS TERRORIZE MY NEIGHBOR AND NOT 1 IN SITE !3 TIMES SHE HAD TO CALL,THIS IS WHAT I MEAN,DO YOU OR DONT YOU CALL? THINK OF HOW MANY KIDS FOR NON THREATNING INCIDENTS TURN OUT TO BE RESENTFUL ADULTS WHO BREAK THE LAW THEIR WHOLE LIFE BECAUSE THEY CHOSE THE WRONG ACTION.TEARS,FOR OUR KIDS AND FOR THOSE WHO FELL THRU THE CRACKS OF THE WORLD THAT IS SUPPOSE TO BE CREATED EQUAL AND FAIR FOR ALL,I CRY WHEN I THINK OF ALL THE SOULS WE LOST NOT TO WARS OR MARRIAGE BUT TO SOCIETY,WHO IS NOT FAIR FOR EVERYONE FOR IT TURNS IT’S BACK ON THE LESS FORTUNATE,THOSE WHO SEEM HOPELESS AND SOME WHO DARE TO CHALLENGE THE RULES.MOTHERHOOD IS TOUGH ,FOR WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR CHILDREN AND THEIR OUTCOME FOR IF WE FAIL,WE ARE PUNISHED IN THE HARSHEST WAY,ABANDOMENT BY SOCIETY,WHO NEGLECTS THOSE WHO NEED HELP IN THE REAL WORLD,HELP WITH WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE AND WHAT ISN’T.A SOCIETY THAT OFFERS NO HELP OR SUPPORT BEFORE WE NEED IT AND DOESN’T HEAR OUR CRIES AND TURNS AWAY AS IF WE WERE A BOTHER AND SHAMES US FOR THINKING IT CARES AND NEVER ADMITS SOCIETY ISN’T EQUAL AND FAIR FOR ALL AND DOES NOT WANT TO DEAL WITH THE SO CALLED”FAILURE” IT CREATED.SOCIETY IS CRUEL AND FICKLE.MOTHERHOOD IS ENDANGERED SPECIES,WHY? BECAUSE WE GIVE UP WHEN OUR CHILDREN’S SCHOOLS WONT LISTEN TO US ,EXPECT US TO DROP THEM OFF AND HOPE FOR THE BEST AND LOOKS DOWN ON THOSE THEY THINK IS INTERFERING WITH THEIR CONFORMMENT OF OUR CHILDREN.WE GIVE SOCIETY TO MUCH SAY SO WITH OUR CHILDEN.WE NEED TO STAND UP AND RE CLAIM WHAT SOCIETY HAS TAKEN FROM US,OUR RIGHTS TO RAISE OUR KIDS OUR WAY AND TO SAY NO WHEN WE KNOW IT’S RIGHT TO AND PROTECT THEM FROM THE ILLS OF THE WORLD.IF WE MOTHERED MORE AND STOP BEING A FOLLOWER TO OTHER PARENTS,THEN MAYBE WE WILL HEAR THE CRIES OF OUR CHILDREN,I MEAN SO WHAT IF U THINK 11 YRS IS TOO YOUNG TO TAKE PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION OR YOU FEEL SAFER DRIVING YOUR KID TO SCHOOL? WHOSE BUSINESS IS IT,YOURS! LIKE I SAID BEFORE,IF SOMEONE CALLS YOU OUT ABOUT YOUR PARENTING STYLE,KINDLY RETURN THE CALL! BECAUSE WE ALL KNOW HOW TO NITPICK EACHOTHER ABOUT OUR PARENTING STYLES.
my name is tammy.i have 6 children,so i feel i have the experience to give advice or write about family life.you see my first was born in 1988 and my last in 2008,4 girls and 2 boys from ages tot to adult and they are under the same roof and are not a step family.i am going to break the perception of the perfect woman.there is none ,she doesnot exist oh some may think they are perfect and some men may think their wife is perfect and their mothers were.i never try to be perfect because if i do ,the example will be set and i’ll never ever be able to slack off .i’m a mom who uses baby wipes for an instant bath if the day lasted too long,baby wipes to do a quick dusting and if the kids r sweating a little.alot has changed since 88,from cribs to diapers and illnesses and vaccinations,so i knew a few tricks of the trade,like if a baby cries hysterically,it does’nt always mean colic,thanks to my 2 yo i now know babies to suffer from acid reflux so now babies take antacid!liquid of course.see some moms are so insecure of how to take care of their babies that they use their moms for the advice that sometimes is too old ,meaning it could be unsafe information,good for one but not another,what i’m getting to is that we need to be confident in ourself and not run to the person you know will save you ,which is fine but if ur like me u have a mom who will set her “baby bird ” free and show her how to spread her mommy wings.my biggest pet peeve is the mommies who have 1 or 2 kids and are the experts on advice and try to tell me what i should try,funny! how about the ones who are a new mommy and immediately super mom and have an instant phd in mommyhood,or the one who is president of the pta,mom cab,betty crocker and model wife,you know darn right they have a secret somewhere! no one can be that perfect,no one ,u better believe it’s smoke and mirrors,i mean are you truly happy?are your children happy being dragged from 1 sport to another?one thin i know is true:it’s not how much time u have w your kids,it’s what you do with it,they’re only babies once,look i know we all want the best 4 our kids but at what price? to all u supermommies,good 4 u,i’m happy u can and have it all,but do not put all sahm’s in the same basket ,and that goes 4 the sahm’s too,u cannot put all working mom’s into that basket eaither.we spend our days competing to be the best mom but at the end of the day the only 1’s who matter is your family.i have alot to say ans alot of stories to tell but that’ll be another blog.